.:Chikine's 20th Layout:.

R(ated), D(ated)

Having seen a wild boar suddenly at Bukit Batok,
while i was in bus was nothing.
Compared to what i witnessed earlier before i took
the bus 180, while i was at the bus stop.

A small scale Domestic Abuse.

It goes like this.
A normal Indian woman wearing sari was walking
toward the bus stop with her 9yr-old(?) girl and (6)yr-old boy.
While i turned my head to the left to keep a lookout for the bus,
and turned back to my front view, i saw an Indian man suddenly
just pulled the boy back, aggresively.

The mum was starled.
So was the children.
So was me and those at the bus stop.

The dad tried to stop the girl from following the mum.
The mum was saying something-pleading with her to come to her side.
The girl went so, both mum and girl quickly walked away from the man.
The poor boy just looked on and wanted to follow but was stopped by the dad.

Then he and the boy passed by me.
I pretended not to see lah, kan. Tak pasal-pasal, nanti kena pulak.
After a few seconds, i turned my back and looked where he was going.
He actually went the other way, and hurried to catch up with the wive from behind.

Then he made a quick dash, leave the son in the middle of a parking road,
sneaked up from behind the wive, pulled her hair and jerked her head real hard.
Adoi! I could see her tripping forward.
From my view, i saw him verbally abuse her with all his hand signal at her face.
It went on quite long. the mum just kept quite and seemed timid.
I heard that in Indian household, the wife must always obey the man like king.
King my foot!
If he behaves like an amok King-kong, who wants to obey?!

When my bus finally arrived, and it passed by them.
The mad king-kong was still at it.
I took a look at the children faces.
Crestfallen faces that pitified me.
At that moment, i knew that they will trade in anything for an exchange
of not having to witness the domestic abuse that had befallen their poor mother.

Whenever there's fight, children suffers.
When adults argued, they think that the children will suddenly be deaf and blind
to the environment that they are in.
Even if they argued within the 4walls, the child will still be in a corner, feeling scared
and blaming themselves for the argument.
No matter how old the child has aged, having to witness this will bleed their heart.

As an educator, I learnt about how children developed.
The basic four different stages of life is important to their development.

Based on those batterer-Monsters who abuse wives/children.
I could say, that most of them got their emotions abused when they were little.
Either they were physically abuse, witnessed abuse, or in an environment where
abuses frequents happens.

Based on statistics that i found (http://cybermontana.com/abuse/stats.htm),
At least 73% of male abusers were abused as children.
In a survey of 100 cases,
it was found that 54 of the abusive husbands were also abusive fathers.
Of the victims, 37 of them abused their children.
Children who witness abuse of their mothers experience psychological abuse at any rate.
A survey of 70 abusers revealed that 55% of the men
were raised in families in which one or both parents were alcoholic.
At least 63% either witnessed or experienced physical abuse while they were growing up.
Alcohol and/or drug abuse is involved in about 65% of all cases of domestic abuse.

Having to witness that scene, gives me jitters!
I hope any of those woman whose man
(not only husband, but fiancee, Bf, toy boy, as long as man),
if they ever laid a hand of abuse on you,
That man is History.

You don't need to wait so long before that same man will have a 2nd hand at you.
Even if after the 1st one, he begs on his knees gave you a hundred roses or
even a Destinee diamond ring to prove his sorry-ness.

Just tell him,
Sorry-lor, You're a wimp!
Who dared to lay hand on woman.

Unless of, course if -in the first place you desrve it lah.
You happy2 scandal behind his back or what-evers.
Then you deserved to get Hand-ed lah!